tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3890252727529257852.post7629487872985285447..comments2023-09-17T03:32:45.949-07:00Comments on autism sucks: Facebook and the Aspergers TeenTina@ SendChocolateNowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04756286418593037399noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3890252727529257852.post-19193102021114792512011-05-11T13:13:20.847-07:002011-05-11T13:13:20.847-07:00Wow, Karen, I can relate to every word of this! Gi...Wow, Karen, I can relate to every word of this! Girlfriends, language, friends, seeing all of it through a black and white lens. I have found trying to teach 15yo Asperger's son about proper use of the internet particularly challenging. (Particularly because he is not interested in being taught!) Part of the problem lies in the uncharted waters of the internet. Many teens and adults are inappropriate online and the social rules are grayed. I recently had to put him through a course I designed to teach him about internet predators. I hate to scare him but they need some healthy fear as they navigate the virtual world without "an edit button". This is an issue that going to become more of a concern for everyone, especially Aspies. <br /><br />Thanks for your openness and bringing this to attention.HeeWhohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02979156046785584933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3890252727529257852.post-62398876239097480362010-09-22T17:26:34.204-07:002010-09-22T17:26:34.204-07:00hello, i am a mother of a 5 year old recently diag...hello, i am a mother of a 5 year old recently diagnosed with ausberger's and a 2 year old diagnosed with classic autism. plus my eldest child has severe cerebral palsey. I have a four year old who at this point appears to be developing typically. I am so lost in all of this. my 5 year old is explosive, and has been since she was 2. she has violent temper tantrums. she bites, hits, smacks, spits in your face, breaks things, throws things and screams for 6 plus hours most days. she has had episodes that have lasted 12 hours. she is now seeing a psychiatrist and awaiting an appt to an autism clinic. i dont even know what to do. have any of you experienced this? i need help, i am drowning.melissanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3890252727529257852.post-75217741069786974322010-09-06T04:01:44.172-07:002010-09-06T04:01:44.172-07:00As an adult with Aspergers, who didn't have th...As an adult with Aspergers, who didn't have the internet as a teenager (as it wasn't around yet!), I actually find the internet to be an easier place to edit my reactions than real life. I've found that the time it takes to compose my words in writing, and then the act of reading them over, has given me more control over what I say, and also given me insight into how other people might read my words. So I'm very careful to word and reword things to express myself clearly in a way that isn't offensive. <br /><br />I'm not sure that I'd have had this control as a child (probably not!) but as an adult, the internet has actually enabled me to better understand the social world and my place in it, because it streamlines interaction into only words on a screen, so I'm not distracted by sensory stuff and all the complexities of body language. I purposely observe how others interact and learn from it. So maybe it will get easier for your son as he gets older.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3890252727529257852.post-34466540801546134802010-09-06T02:12:28.842-07:002010-09-06T02:12:28.842-07:00Having Aspergers, I can see both sides of this iss...Having Aspergers, I can see both sides of this issue having engaged in this sort of behavior albeit minus the cursing online (I reserve that for real life) I can understand the desire to blow off steam at the person who has caused the anger especially when I was a teenager. As I grew older I realized that such behavior had repercussions mostly through ruined friendships and the like, so I learned to try and put a muzzle on things. Sometimes that does not always work and as you say the missing edit button is in full effect but once I calm down I quickly apologize and delete my comments. It took me a long time to learn this as I am now 32. I sometimes still do the explosive or cryptic status update but those too for the most part eventually get deleted.<br /><br />Robert MoranAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3890252727529257852.post-73353021196478249542010-09-02T16:16:11.715-07:002010-09-02T16:16:11.715-07:00Madmother I wasn't looking at a personal chat....Madmother I wasn't looking at a personal chat. These were posts that all of the kids where commenting on. <br /><br />Gavin -thanks for reading, commenting and following!Karen Wesley Writeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02337598132381046024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3890252727529257852.post-75811515761337995672010-09-02T15:27:21.908-07:002010-09-02T15:27:21.908-07:00You're right. Cursing is very much like barkin...You're right. Cursing is very much like barking. If I bump into a wall, I'll often curse at it even though it's an inanimate object. I guess I can't help it.<br /><br />Why have words if you're not allowed to say them?<br /><br />Also: Believe it or not there is empirical research which concluded that swearing actually helps people to feel better.<br /><br />Of course, the effect on those who don't swear is another thing entirely.Gavin Bollardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13833941398375568706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3890252727529257852.post-46844442894969436572010-09-02T13:47:20.574-07:002010-09-02T13:47:20.574-07:00Wow - how fantaqstic. I often worry about my young...Wow - how fantaqstic. I often worry about my younger and his explosiveness and language, and he is my NT child. The older does not use bad language at all, but is more likely to cause upsets by chastising those who do. <br /><br />Both are on FB, but I monitor it very closely. (PS - how do you see their chat thingy? I thought that was only between those who are invited to chat?)Madmotherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18189416781378632230noreply@blogger.com