Friday, March 4, 2011

The Guilt of Good

I haven't posted here in a long time. It is because I feel guilty posting when things are good. They are. Good, really good. He is happy, he is confident. The powerful pull of personal growth has changed from a puberty monstrosity to a pleasing maturity. Was it the increase in fish oil capsules (his idea)? Was it the stepping up as we battled the system with his Nanna? Was it the loss of his Nanna? I do not know.

I think all those years of therapy and work may have had something to do with it. I think he is growing up. I think he is happy in his own skin.

I feel guilty posting of this when so many others are struggling. Then I remember. This is not wrong, it is not boasting, it is hope.

Things do change. Sometimes for the better. Usually when you least expect it.

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  1. I actually love this. Thanks Madmother. Hope is a good thing. In fact it might be the best thing.

  2. Let's hope this trend continues. ;)

  3. Post the good stuff. It encourages us. Post the bad stuff, too. It lets us know you're real.

  4. Its so important to post it all. Not just for you, though you need to be able to look back at good times if the roller coaster leads you in a tough direction; but to show the world, those affected by ASD and those not, that there ARE good times. Because there are.
    Enjoy this trend. You all deserve it.

  5. This post is awesome! I'm so happy things are going well for you & your family. There is enough stress and guilt during the bad times, please don't feel guilt for the good. ENJOY IT!! May your family continue in this vein for a nice long time. :)

  6. Please post when is it good, bad and ugly. There is hope for everyone. It is a battle for all of us and if one wins we all win.

  7. You only need to read my past posts for the bad stuff, lol.

    I do not know how long or if this will last, but for now he is the young man I always believed he could be. It is just under a year of this. Oh, we have had our hiccups but they have not been the incredible big ones of past years.

    I keep telling him how very proud I am. And as always, how much I love him.

  8. It's nice to see something positive! It's easy to feel a little guilty, but don't. It's about the entire journey, positive and negative. Glad you posted and I got to read it.

  9. Oh sweetie, please don't feel bad...let is bask with you in your joy. I for one am doin' my little 'happy dance' here!!! It's great when things just come together and I'm thrilled for you, your son and your family.

    Have a beautiful day filled with many wonderfully warm blessings!!! :o)

  10. ha ha, I was feeling this way a couple of weeks ago. Then bam, it all changed as you know from reading my recent post. But getting a long term perspective is so encouraging. Please never feel guilty or reluctant to give us hope.

  11. Thanks for stopping by my blog. I love this post. You certainly shouldn't feel guilty because this post is what I need to hear. It gives me hope that I'll be posting about the 'good' too. Glad to here that things are good!

  12. It still continues. He amazes me every day.

    Bet I am the only mum to get a 3rd eye massage as part of my Mother's Day spoiling, lol.


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