Thursday, July 10, 2008

I Love You

Having an "Aspie" means that you come to know certain things. You learn quickly that they use the same phrases repetitively. It is part of that whole routine thing that helps to soothe them. I think it also is part of what some experts refer to as "scripted speech" - meaning that they hear this and then use it because they think that is how you are always supposed to talk. 
My Bacon uses "scripted speech" a LOT. Things are DEELICIOUS, and he always has a GREAT IDEA. Often THAT'S NOT SAFE, or NOT A GREAT IDEA. His newest (and my favorite) is What I was probably thinking is...
He does say "I love you" but only after you have told him that first. He gives hugs and kisses and "Eskimo kisses" (which he calls snuggles) at free will. He will gladly tell you that he misses you or missed you when you were gone. He is vibrant and wonderful with language, but still never just says "I love you momma."
I am okay with that. He is still little, and it is a hard concept to learn and grasp and get. Maybe he will never be the first to say it. That will be okay. As long as I always tell him, and he knows long after I am gone that he was my sun, moon, stars and everything and I loved him with every fiber of my body and soul. 
Then before he left to go to Crazy Aunt Ethel's on Monday he ran inside to give me a hug and a kiss, he threw his arms around my neck and whispered in my ear "I love you momma. I love you more than the sun and the moon and the stars." 
I cried when he left. Not because I was sad, but because finally my little man said the words that I thought that he would never say first, that he loves me. 
*My name is  Mrs. Tantrum. I am a 31 year old mom to a 4 year old son who was recently diagnosed with Asperger's. I blog almost every day at Momma's Tantrum about our life with Asperger's, Coffee, the crazy antics here, and more. I do have a fierce potty mouth so if you are easily offended, just cover your eyes and hum loudly!*


  1. OMG, and now I am crying. Really. What a great post to end on and head to bed.

    Faith, I am so happy for you. That's huge.


  2. Aren't those moments the best? I'm a big fan of them myself.

    Wonderful. Just wonderful.


  3. Okay, now I am crying too. J's current scripted phrase is

    "What I'd really rather prefer is _______". Cracks my sh*t up.

    We have a lot of echolalia. For now I get my I love you's in the echolalia too.

    I'm glad we have this site.

  4. Those moments make all of the struggles slip away, don't they?


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